@BoulderChristina
has a good blog up today about being Mad, it reminded me of the entry below from May 12, 2010, we were doing a 30 day challenge that I don't think I ever finished...
Anyway, when I find myself going a little Mad Hatter I go back and read this....
just so I'll remember how it was...
Talk about a regret you have.
I regret being Mad.
There was a long period in my life when it seemed I was mad all the time. I don't mean mad like miffed, I mean madcow disease mad or maybe rabid dog mad would be better (I don't like being compared to heifers very much). When things didn't go my way it made me angry but mostly I got mad when people lied. My siblings and I were taught to tell the truth, even if it got us in trouble we told the truth, we could always trust each other though, apparently this wasn't the case in a lot of families. My eldest son Matt was a delight until he went off to Middle School and apparently fell prey to peer pressure and started lying. He would lie about everything, even when he didn't need too. The thing is he didn't learn the technique early enough so he wasn't very good at it and the fight between us would be on and on and on and on....I would get mad and he would get mad...we stayed mad at each other for about six years I think...
At the end of Matt's junior year of high school he pre-signed up for the Air Force and I thought maybe he had changed his ways, but his senior year was pretty typical of the other five years only the deceit escalated toward the last three months of school. It was a difficult time for me and I'm sure everyone else in my household as well. I yelled and screamed and cussed and kicked stuff - Barry bless his heart finally just took the bottom doors off the kitchen cabinets.
I could go on and on about the stuff that made me mad but this is getting a bit difficult for me so I'll just cut to the chase. Matt left for Boot Camp on my birthday in August 1992 and I was mad at him then - so mad I didn't even hug or kiss him good-bye. On the way to catch the bus his Dad asked him if he would be writing to any particular girls - He said well just one Dad...Barry asked what was so special about this one girl (he usually had quite a few girls chasing after him - He was so handsome and so sweet ) and he said well this one special girl is about seven months pregnant. . . Barry and he went by the place where she worked and she was indeed with child...very much so...and that made me mad too - not that Matt was going to be a father and hadn't told us but we had never even heard of this girl. . . not one word about her. For the next week nothing ... not man nor beast ... was safe from my wrath.
Then I got a letter from Matt asking me not to be mad at this girl...She was a good person and he loved her and was excited about the baby...It was then I realized what I had missed by being mad all the time. I had lost Matt's confidence to be able to tell me the truth. I took a good look and saw that I was the majority of the problem, and what had I gained by being mad all the time? Nothing except a lot of heart ache and busted cabinet doors. Being mad is a terribly negative emotion...it get's you nowhere except out of control...
So I stopped - Right then and there. I don't get mad anymore, sure I get disappointed sometimes and I get sad and weary, hell's bells I even get angry sometimes, but not mad - it's a useless tactic anyway and I regret all the time and energy it stole from my life.
The silver lining to this story is that Matt and I made our peace and I have two beautiful grandchildren from that union, I sure thank God for that and them!

Reese and Mara
Matt's kids
The gray part is that if my dog Tish hears the "F" word from anywhere - she still goes and hides under the bed...If you come to our house and say the F word you will be in big trouble mister!!!!

I think Tish and I feel better now
I know this
"Until you've seen this trash can dream come true
You stand at the edge while people run you through
And I thank the Lord there's people out there like you
I thank the Lord there's people out there like you:
~Songwriters: Elton John and Bernie Taupin
and I really do thank the Lord for people like you!
ILYM
Mona Lisas And Mad Hatters
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZcXFnN4wD94
"While Mona Lisas and Mad Hatters
Sons of bankers, sons of lawyers
Turn around and say good morning to the night
For unless they see the sky
But they can't and that is why
They know not if it's dark outside or light"
~ Elton John and Bernie Taupin, songwriters
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